For many working parents, a home business may seem like the answer to your
prayers. You want to have more time with your kids and greater flexibility, so
you take the leap, install a second phone line, and set up a computer in the
dining room.
But the first thing you may discover is that working from home includes many
unexpected distractions. Children, your spouse, neighbors, and the family dog
come and go. They make loud noises, ask for your help, or interrupt you to ask
a "quick question," always just long enough to break your
concentration.
Your family and friends don't seem to understand that you're working. They
ask you to run errands, expect you to handle chores, and want to chat on the
phone. When you see the stack of dishes or pile of newspapers sitting there
waiting, you're tempted to take time out from work to clean up a bit.
You'd like to keep your house livable and be available to the people you
care about, but it's just too much for one person to manage. When can you get
any work done?
The way out of this dilemma is to set clear boundaries on your space, time,
and responsibilities. If your office has a door, try having
"open-door" time and "closed-door" time. When your door is
open, the kids can come say hello, ask questions, or tell you about their day.
When the door is closed, it means "Do Not Disturb."
A good way to explain this to children is telling them you need some private
time, not just that you are busy. If your office doesn't have a door, you need
one! Try to find another place in your home where you can create some private
space for at least part of the day.
Setting regular working hours will help you manage your time better as well
as give some guidelines to your family. Build your hours around the family
activities that are important to you. If your kids get home at 2:00, for
example, set up your work day from 8:30 to 2:00 and 4:00 to 6:00.
Your schedule can change each week to allow for attending school activities
and performances. Choose how many work hours per week makes sense for you,
design a schedule, and post it on your office door. Highlight the open times,
and let everyone know that's when you are available to them.
If your family expects you to run errands and handle household chores during
your work day, it may be time to hold a family meeting. Explain to your
children (and remind your spouse) that it may look like mommy or daddy is
playing on the computer or chatting on the phone, but this is his or her job,
and it contributes to the family's income.
Start by listing all the jobs that need to be done around the house, and who
does them now. Instead of assigning chores, try asking each family member to
volunteer for something. If there are lots of tasks left over, be sure to ask
if they really need to be done, or done as often. (Dusting, for example, may
need to go by the wayside.) If you are doing work for the family during time
you could be making money, consider hiring someone to clean your house or drive
the kids to after-school activities.
When one of your boundaries gets tested, learn to hold the line. If you give
in even once, don't expect the boundary to hold up. Try making the closed door,
posted schedule, or job roster the bad guy instead of yourself.
Instead of, "I'm too busy to talk right now -- you'll have to
wait," say, "The door is closed now, would you please come back when
it's open?" When friends call during work time, ask them to call back
after hours. And when someone doesn't do one of their chores, don't do it for
them! Serving a meal on dirty dishes may seem extreme, but it gets the message
across.