Scene ONE: a world away in the remote regions of the western
Himalayas.
Our team had been warned of the dangers in crossing the white water
rivers fed by glacier melt. The crossing would be on foot and had to be done
as early as possible in the day-before the sun would begin to melt the ice
pack and the rivers rise within minutes. Our team of locals had gotten us up
before dawn-sending us briskly on our way after a hot breakfast. They stayed
behind to pack up gear, tent, and load the mules. We made it across the
frigid water by forming a human chain. Our team was too late. They had to
spend the night on a rock pile, in below freezing temperatures, and cross at
5:30 am the next day.
My husband and I were up early that morning with the head guide.
Suddenly, we heard a shout and in the distance saw the figures of our team
coming down the slope. We cheered, waved, hollered and wrapped them in an
embrace with the words, "Welcome Home." We stood around beaming at each
other. For the rest of the trek, this team seemed even more helpful,
solicitous and full of extra effort for those of us who welcomed them home.
I frankly had not made the connection until another incident happened.
Scene TWO: a combination assisted living and memory care facility
in Southern California.
Mom, age 93, had fallen and broken her hip. Now, two months’ from the
time an ambulance sped her away to the closest hospital, I wheeled her back
through the front door. Her mind and body had taken a terrible assault
coupled with embolisms and a decreasing ability to emotionally or mentally
cope. She would not be going back to her upstairs studio but rather into the
rooms behind the locked door.
As soon as we entered, the receptionist jumped up to give Mom a big hug
and said "welcome home." Other care managers came up and knelt down and
hugged her. When we walked down the hall toward the locked doors, residents
who had known Mom were sitting in the activities room. They shouted to her
and applauded. As I pushed her down the hall to her new room, more care
managers came up to us Lastly, at the door of her new room were balloons and
a big sign, "Welcome Home, Mary." I cried.
Any lingering doubt about the wisdom of this move vanished. Despite the
fact Mom can’t remember them and alternates in moods that range from
pleasant to belligerent, this team of caregivers continues to serve with
compassion and care. They come from different parts of the facility to tell
me they are so glad our whole family has come home.
Funny. The first day I left her, the security guard at my building
hollered out "welcome home." I swear I had never heard that.
Welcome Home Insights for Leaders
(1) How do you make employees feel as if they are welcomed home? One
surgeon was overheard telling a custodian, "Hey, Frank. Glad to see you this
morning. I never worry about the cleanliness of this hospital when I see you
here." Don’t you think the employee felt as if he was, "welcomed home"? I
do.
(2) Do you notice when employees are absent-whether for illness, travel,
or even vacation? And when they come back, do you welcome them home? Sounds
trite, but I am beginning to think it is the small things that help us feel
valued.
(3) As the economy turns around, you might very well want to bring back
employees who have been laid off. How will you welcome them home?
(4) What about your customers or clients? How do you welcome them home?
One bank teller not only didn’t welcome a long-time customer "home" but
insisted that he could not validate a parking ticket unless the customer
made a transaction. The customer was so angry, he made a transaction: closed
an account that had several thousand dollars in it.
Welcome Home Insights for Employees
(1) There are some people who bring joy by entering a room and others by
leaving. Which one are you? If we had not cared for the staff at Mom’s
residence and if she had not been kind, trust me-they would not have
welcomed her home.
(2) Watch out for negativity, mean-spirited comments, and "all-about-me"
behavior. Behavior like this, even if one is a solid performer by way of
numbers, will not generate a "welcome home" feeling. In one law firm, the
top rainmaker was fired because the managing partners determined that his
behavior so undermined the office that they were better off without him.
(3) Always leave well. Should you leave for another company, another
career or even retirement-make sure you leave speaking only well of your
employer. Who knows-you might want to return someday.
Remember: home is not given but made. What will you do to make your work
a place in which people feel welcomed home?
(c) 2009, McDargh Communications.
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